The American author, EL Doctorow, described writing as ‘like driving the car at night in a fog. You never see further than your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.’

This is true of any act of conscious creation.

And the headlights, the guide through the fog and darkness, is your own desire. Doctorow’s desire to finish a book, yours to see what you truly want brought into being.

The key word here is “truly”. Consciously creating means knowing which of our wants lead us in the direction of growth, freedom and happiness – what we call essential wants – and which are false cravings and hankerings and addictions that lead towards frustration, disillusion and disappointment.

By essential wants I don’t just mean the obvious necessities of life like  food, shelter and belonging. Essential wants are those that are expressive of you, important at essence.

What you truly want might appear frivolous to somebody else but, deep down, you know it’s essential to you.

An essential want will:

  • Embody some vital essence of you
  • Be capable of being framed as a positive creative intention
  • Make you feel good
  • Have a price you’re happy to pay
  • Give rise to an internal creative ‘yes’
  • Give you a feeling of freedom and fun

NEXT: Discovering What YOU Most Truly Want.

PREVIOUSLY in this series: What Men Want, What Women Want & Working With Wants, Part 1.