So now you have your creative intention. You’ve written it down, slept on it, satisfied yourself that this is the one.
Once you’ve really absorbed that you mean it, it’s time to make it known to some trusted others. There are a number of good reasons to do this: it embeds the intention for you, ensures you are serious, helps to hold you accountable.
Alas there are nay-sayers in this world. And when it comes to conscious creation, some of those nay-sayers may be the people we most love.
Creative Support: Family and Friends
It’s natural to seek recognition and support from friends and family but that is not always the best path for creatives and creativists, especially at first.
Taking the creative way means you’re embarking on something new, something different and exciting. It can often be a bit too new, a bit too different, more scary than exciting for those closest to us.
The more radical and innovative your intention, the more you may confuse your loved ones.
In many ways, that’s okay. Standing up for your vision, articulating its value to you and others, evoking possibility and vision can both help you understand what you’re doing, and draw you closer to others who do understand.
But it takes a certain level of creative confidence to do this and that’s precisely what’s often lacking when we’re starting out.
At the start, your job as a creative or creativist is to protect the energy and enthusiasm you need to go from intention to completion.
How can you ensure that other people don’t deflate your creative energy?
Involving Others In Your Creative Intentions
~ Anticipate Objections
Spend a little time thinking about how your news might affect another before sharing. What triggers might be ignited? How can you intercept them?
~ Share honestly
Argument or frustration is far less likely to influence your loved ones and ignite their support than honest sharing. Explain that if you don’t pursue this creative intention, you’re going to live with regret. This is a feeling almost everyone can relate to.
~ Tell them how much their support means to you.
Assure them that you’ll be fair to them in making your decisions and explain how you expect it to affect things between you– and not.
~ Ask them what they think — and listen
Don’t fire off if they don’t understand. Listen deeply to what’s really being said. This process will test your ability to handle your emotions around your intention. It will also refine your ability to express your innermost thoughts and your true intentions.
Observe your own reactions
When you wail that your loved ones don’t understand you, are you projecting your own fears and doubts? If you find yourself getting defensive, snappy, argumentative, or frustrated, take a step back.
Is this your own abcdeFs (attitudes, beliefs, concepts, denials, expections or fears) about your intention at play?
These are opportunities to define your own relationship with your intention as well as your energy and desire to succeed.
Reevaluate The Company You Keep?
Often sharing your vision and explaining how much you value their support can be enough but sometimes there’s nothing you can say or do.
People are leery of change and you taking this step towards your vision may stir up latent feelings in others about their own creative disappointments, failures, frustrations or regrets.
There is a saying in the creative and entrepreneurial community that you are the product of the five people with whom you spend most time. Who are your closest five? Are they supportive of your new intention?
Choose your creative company wisely. Sometimes you need to let people go. Or at least let them go in relation to this aspect of your life.
Your creative intention and the process that will unfold it is a contract between you and yourself but the attitudes of others can be an opportunity to dig deep and get to the core of your vision.
Use the downloadable worksheets below to establish three people you can trust to encourage and motivate you.
And three critics you need to watch out for as you move more deeply into creative mode.
Share your intention with at least one of your trusted others. Keep your intention safe from the nay-sayers, until you’re feeling creatively confident and it is ready to stand on its own legs.
Not Just Starting Out
People may expect you to give up after a specific time if you are not obtaining the results they want for you. You may be questioned as to whether you’re still working on the venture. For some, it may be a pleasure to pinpoint your failures. Again, this is an opportunity to observe yourself and your commitment to your intention. It is in holding true, against the odds, that we grow and prosper in our own way.
Creative Support: The Creativist Club
The creative way is, by definition, new and so less safe, less understood than more worldly ways. This book is offered as a support, whenever you need to gather your creative courage, claim the truth of your own life force, and hold to it, even against the opinion of others.
If you would like to join a community of people who are supporting each other to live this way and make great things happen, you’ll find us online at The Creativist Club.
And here you’ll find a sign-up for a weekly creative motivator each Monday.
Next time we’ll look at breaking your intention down into sub-intentions.
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